tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3544693180473432012.post1819540096800818583..comments2023-11-05T04:39:10.562-08:00Comments on Musings by Mugwhump: The First 50 Are HardLJhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11458031692609491672noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3544693180473432012.post-15434262274889131012010-02-21T07:53:40.277-08:002010-02-21T07:53:40.277-08:00I loved this entry. It made me stop and think abo...I loved this entry. It made me stop and think about my life too. Aren't those the best type of entries?<br /><br />I married my first husband right out of high school. We divorced 18 months later. <br /><br />I did not re-marry for almost 7 years. My family had given up hope that I would ever marry again. When I told my Grama (who raised me) that I was marrying Bill, she said "Thank goodness. I thought you were just going to have lovers for the rest of your life!" <br /><br />I often say that before my first marriage, I knew what I wanted in a husband. Then I discovered what I didn't want in a husband. ;o)Carolynhttp://h2ophobic.diaryland.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3544693180473432012.post-2148408154034822402010-02-18T07:09:47.068-08:002010-02-18T07:09:47.068-08:00This is why I'm addicted to blogging. We all j...This is why I'm addicted to blogging. We all just have so much in common.<br /><br />Like Bumbles, I had known Jeff for many years and I did not appreciate what a great guy he was...at all. <br /><br />And it wasn't until I had been in a relationship very much like CG described before she married that Jeff was a really great, smart guy.<br /><br />He also knew there was no real point in trying to have a relationship until I was out of college so that's why we just went ahead and got married the month after I graduated. It was time and we seized it.Elizabeth A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06741728597715923701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3544693180473432012.post-5701857985130639002010-02-18T04:14:43.323-08:002010-02-18T04:14:43.323-08:00Oy, I'm a day late and a dollar short. I thoug...Oy, I'm a day late and a dollar short. I thought Elizabeth was asking has society (with its changes) made marriage more difficult. <br /><br />I do think, with technology as it is, there's more of a chance that a partner will stray in an unconventional way. I mean online "relationships" that are not physical. I suppose the same was true back in the '50s. <br /><br />I think they called those "emotional affairs" meaning the talk is deep but there's no physical affair. <br /><br />It just seems like standards have relaxed a lot these days and the challenges to stay together are greater.<br /><br />I feel like I fell into my marriage. I did date a real jerk before I met my husband. I'm embarrassed to admit that I would have stayed with that jerk if he had not pushed me away. I felt like I could make things smoother/better/easier for him and that I should stay with him.<br /><br />In retrospect I can see that was a strong pattern for me and I would have been divorced if I had married that guy.<br /><br />My husband is completely different, basically the opposite of that guy so I really feel lucky that I met him. He did break that bad pattern for me, even though I didn't see the pattern at the time.cardiogirlhttp://www.cardiogirl.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3544693180473432012.post-34590664399585386732010-02-17T20:43:05.496-08:002010-02-17T20:43:05.496-08:00The key to our marriage was - as you said - findin...The key to our marriage was - as you said - finding each other at the right time. Andy and I have known each other half our lives. But if we had begun dating when we first met - I am sure I would not have appreciated the good guy that he was and that would have been the end of that. Because we began dating after I had learned the kind of person I deserved to be with, I think it made our realtionship a breeze. Being friends for many years first certainly helped us know who we were dealing with - but it is still a very different world. I firmly believe that timing is everything. That is why for some a matter of months is all it takes and for others it takes years. You just need to capture that point where you are both at the same level at the same time.The Bumbleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08334162339045336577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3544693180473432012.post-86664004799164554282010-02-17T14:13:27.730-08:002010-02-17T14:13:27.730-08:00Hi - just stumbled upon your blog, and I really li...Hi - just stumbled upon your blog, and I really like it. :)Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11224183405225043445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3544693180473432012.post-1425291079558307742010-02-17T13:28:23.271-08:002010-02-17T13:28:23.271-08:00I am new to your blog but after reading a couple o...I am new to your blog but after reading a couple of your post... decided to follow. I am 30... married for the 2nd and last time... and if I had to do it all over again... I would have waited much longer to get married.. I don't know WHY I was in such a rush:)Shanelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11825882418484714630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3544693180473432012.post-59352723443417182162010-02-17T10:39:31.562-08:002010-02-17T10:39:31.562-08:00Sure does, there's no "one" answer a...Sure does, there's no "one" answer anyway.<br /><br />My question originated from watching a talk show this morning on how marriage trends have changed so dramatically. <br /><br />You were on the right track with me. And absolutely no offense taken. I'm 25 and we'll be married 3 years in June. I have known him going on 12 years now. But we have a very traditional type marriage and when I read "child of the 60's" while watching the show it made me curious.<br /><br />It seems I was "primed" for marriage because my mother remarried in my early teens and that was by far the hardest adjustment I've ever had to make. I mean, it really sucked. And I always had to live with roommates so learning to live with my husband even though we never dated only took a couple of months before we were comfortable with that aspect. <br /><br />And I think your last statement does sum it up nicely, the ever evolving the most important. You have to change together.Elizabeth A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06741728597715923701noreply@blogger.com